Drawing is my therapy, it really helps because sometimes when I try to put my feelings on paper I become frustrated at how none of the words seem to make sense. I used to think that writing when I'm emotional or even needing to talk to someone about my problems was a sign of weakness;… Continue reading Doodles
When I married Bandile, she knew it was possible that he would marry someone else. His father, Chief Lang’alitshoni had seven wives and all his betrothed brothers were in polygamous marriages. I was trained - … that’s not the word for it… groomed to accept it as a part of his culture and his mother… Continue reading Careful in the night
You should never confront your partner for cheating if you’re not prepared to leave them for it. That’s something I wish someone had told me before I confronted Athi with the evidence my friends had gathered for me. “I fucked her,” he said folding his newspaper to put it away so he could talk to… Continue reading Symptoms
If relationships were cars; trust would be the fuel and respect would be the engine. Love matters because you can’t be in a relationship with someone you don’t love, but so much could go wrong in a relationship where love is all you and your partner have for each other. I’ve been in my fair… Continue reading Cars can’t run without fuel or an engine.
Everyone enjoys intimate house gatherings with friends: you’re drinking with people who know your drunk shenanigans, you’re comfortable and have access to clean toilets and there’s no pressure to look like you’re having as much fun as your friends because you probably are. “Jabu said there won’t be a lot of people Zinz, you haven’t… Continue reading Deception
Whip out your dick and I’ll draw my sword: Since you want to use your manhood as a weapon give me a chance to choose mine. If it’s a war you want, a war you’ll get But let me draw my sword and I’ll give you a war you won’t forget. You call yourself a… Continue reading Whip out your dick
I can’t believe I survived 2016. I’m not just saying this because of the hype around “2016 was a trash year”… 2016 legitimately was the hardest year of my life. I started this blog the year before last and I thought I’d have at least forty posts on it by now because when I started… Continue reading Happy New Year
I am still trying to find the guy who designed this. I would definitely cop it.
Someone sent this message to me this morning and I thought I should share because even though he doesn't know the details of the battles I have fought or the stories behind my new scars I really related to this message and even though I don't know any of the details of your battles nor do… Continue reading Come ready, come now.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?" I am sorry Marianne Williamson but that… Continue reading My deepest fear